So it’s been a while since I’ve posted on here. There’s been a lot going on in my life lately, and I’ve got a couple of posts coming up that’ll explain more soon!! But in the mean time, I wanted to share something that recently came up in my life and how I dealt with it.
In this day and age, we are surrounded by negativity. Think about it… most of the ads around us are designed to make us feel more negative about ourselves so we buy their product. The same goes with people in our life. I am beyond blessed to be surrounded by incredible family, friends, and even new co-workers! But once and a while, there’s that dark cloud that comes with someone in your life. Now I want to preface this by saying this is not a post about cutting out someone in your life who is having a hard time and needs you as a support network (we all go through tough times). I’m talking about someone who can ruin your entire day with just one text or constantly tries to belittle your accomplishments. It’s 2019 and it’s time for those people to go.
Recently I had a friend that I completely cut out of my life. The reason: every time I heard from said person, I felt a sense of dread and knew the conversation would end the same way every single time, with me being drained of all my positive energy and left feeling terrible about myself. I realized that in the days where we didn’t communicate, I was much happier and didn’t feel as stressed. Then when they would reach out again, I’d go through the whole process all over again. Finally I came to my breaking point this week. I was at work, and got a message from said person. I went from having a productive day to feeling like I was stuck in a helpless position and going no where. When in fact, that isn’t true! I got up from my desk, took a short walk around the office, sat back down and realized what needed to be done.
I deleted and blocked their number, and blocked them on every social media platform I use. Immediately I felt like a weight lifted off my shoulders. My day turned around again. I went from looking at my to do list, dreading every task on it, to jumping right back into my work and getting EVERYTHING on my list done! My only regret: not cutting this person out of my life sooner.
Here’s my advice for you, if the person that popped into your head while reading this article fits the following:
- Never has one. single. positive. thing. to. say. EVER.
- Tries to downplay the amazing things you do.
- Have to always be “right” in an argument. (especially when they are really wrong)
- Play the “poor me” card all the time. We all have rough days but you’d think this person was worse off than Tiny Tim getting the crutch kicked out from under him…
- None of their problems are ever their fault. There’s always someone or something else to blame.
….then it’s time to cut ties and move on. One thing I’d preface it with, depending on the nature of your relationship, you can’t just simply block the person. If it’s someone you’ve been friends with for years, consider sitting down and having a conversation with them. Now if it’s someone you’ve tried removing from your life before, then yes, you have my full permission to delete and block them on everything.
My New Year’s Resolution this year was to find ways to bring more happiness into my life. Life is too damn short to be miserable. We are a month and some change into 2019. I haven’t been perfect on this resolution, but making small adjustments has led up to me being a heck of a lot happier lately. Now go out, and break free of the negativity surrounding you!